This is a straight copy-and-paste from Sinn's post on the MM forums on opening...

How to open actually for real....
Hey guys,
I want to talk to you guys about the mistakes that most people make while opening.
Most guys will open and then try running a routine of some sort or a DHV laced story.
This is wrong, wrong, wrong.
There is a structure to opening that took me awhile to be able to articulate.
We all know (hopefully cough*Craig *cough) that you need to accomplish 3 pieces in order to move into A2.
They are:
Your opener(no matter what it is)
Your False Time Constraint
Your first neg, tease, pebble, etc...
Well what most guys do wrong( Besides not FTCing) is that they will open and then transition in a strictly non-sequitor way.
Ex:
PUA: Hey guys, would you ever date someone who was tsill good friends with their ex?
Girls: answer....
PUA: Well my buddy's Gf found a box of letters and pictures and wants him to burn them. What do you think of that?
Girls:....
PUA: So the other day I was cliff diving and .....
No good.
Instead we want to actually look like we were about to leave and then notice something about them that makes us stay.
Ex:
PUA: Hey guys, would you ever date someone who was tsill good friends with their ex?
Girls: answer....
PUA: OMG are you guys best friends? Cuz you guys make the exact same facial expressions-Best friends test
Girls: giggle and may or may not ask you to finish your opener.
Remember that opener only needs to open. It doesn't need to demonstrate value or be milked.
Milking openers is 1 of the major mistakes I see on bootcamp every other weekend.
I HATE when I come into a guy's set after watching for 5 minutes and they are still discussing a jealous GF or who lies more.
That doesn't work.
It also telegraphs way too much interest in this banal topic.
Instead you want to cut your own threads. That means that you do not have to finish your opener. Instead you can begin a new routine right after your hook
question.
Also watch for responses as some girls will be really into you right off the opener and you may be able to skip A2.
Now the next mistake guys make is forgetting to time constrain.
One of the first things that goes through a girl's head when you open her group is " How long is this guy going to stay?"
We can alleviate this discomfort quite easily by just casually saying that we have to get back to our friends.
The way I think about opening and the game in general is that I am simply crossing these pieces off of my cheat sheet.
Open-check
FTC-check
Neg-check
Now I am in A2
Where i go
Pre-selection-check
Leader of men-check
Protector of loved ones-check
Easy.
The final part of opening I want to touch on is Teasing/negging/disqualifying etc...
If you are using opinion openers you NEED to be busting girls on their answers.
EX:
PUA: Would you guys ever date someone who was really good friends with his ex?
Girls: That's normal I'd do that....
PUA: OMG you are totally the girl who keeps her exes around as booty calls. You're trouble. So she finds this box of like pictures and letters and shit and she
wants my friend to stop talking to her and burn the box. Is that normal? Actually before you answer... Are you guys Best friends?
Girls....
However your target reacts to you, you need to be teasing her.
This is where negs like " Is she alwasy like this " come into play.
So if you are having problems opening, or the girls respond but it lacks that fun element of sexual tension... add in FTCs and teases after the opener, and make
sure that you are not milking your openers.
Hope this helps.
Sinn

Sinn once again proves that he both has incredible understanding of the dynamics of social situations and the articulation to convey it to the community.

Caring

I think one sticking point that's really come to the forefront of my thinking recently is caring about what people do with their lives. I'd always been raised with the mindset that I need to accomplish something in my life and have been pushed to do things. This upbringing really brought about a rebellious attitude and essentially pushed me away from that goal. Now, I realize that I care too much about what other people do with their lives. Often, I'll look at someone and think, "my god, they're wasting their life -- what a loser." This is not the attitude and mindset that I should have, because a successful, confident person would not care what anyone else does (presuming that it doesn't negatively affect anyone other than themselves).

I need to realize that other people have their own lives, demons and desires and whatever path they choose is their decision. I'm not here to save anyone from themselves -- change comes from within, not without. What I need to do is focus on being a positive influence on my own life, and therefore, a positive change to others simply by doing what I enjoy doing.

Having a positive, non-judgemental mindset is crucial to inner game and will help give me the proper attitude to opening sets.

Post by Sinn

It seems like every post by Sinn contains some gem of information that is wonderfully insightful or beautifully simplistic. This one about passive acceptance of frames is one of them.

Conversation

I didn't go out yesterday. Yes, I know what you're thinking, "You bastard, change your tagline from 'Seizing the day. Every day' to 'Seizing the day. Once in a while'! But, although I don't have a good excuse, I got some very valuable insight into routines and congruent transitioning material -- that can be used as an opener, if necessary.

My day went something like this: Got back from work, took a nap from 3pm - 6pm. Didn't receive word from my wing, so assumed he wasn't up for going out, chilled online and played games with friends. Now, this is where it gets interesting. I go downstairs to grab some food but around this time, my roommates are eating dinner. So while I'm down there, they tell me to eat with them.

--Quick background info: yesterday, we had some good discussion on the email list I'm part of, and a friend of mine made the comment that "I talk to the ugliest girl in the room, because I think she's the only one who'll talk to me". That was somewhat surprising, since he's a good looking guy -- not handsome, but cute (yes, I'm straight). This also kind of ties into a few social events I've seen him in, as well, since he usually brought less than hot chicks with him.


So I made a comment to one of my roommates, "My friend just told me something sad. We were talking about dating, and he told me that he only approaches the ugliest girl in the room because he thinks that's the only one who will talk to him. Which is really weird, because he's a good looking guy." That pretty much blew open the door to discussion of how personality trumps looks and male -> female dynamics. From there, we talked about relationships, how guys talk to girls, how important it is to have a good relationship and built rapport through background stories and etc. All of it was terrific and we ended up talking for a good 2+ hours. I tried to carry a majority of the conversation, by bringing up interesting little anecdotes and observations ("you ever notice how some people are SO different when they're drunk?"). If I were interested in this girl, I probably could've segued into kino escalation and other stuff.


Some good things I learned:

-Girls LOVE talking about relationships and male-female dynamics. Especially helpful is when you can bring in real life examples.

-Bringing up observations and then giving an example is a terrific way of carrying on the conversation ("have you ever noticed good looking guys with ugly chicks? like my friend, he's with a girl...").

-Talk about everything. Tell that story about that crazy thing you did in highschool (if it's congruent). Keep the 80/20 rule (or 90/10) in mind and always have something interesting to say. If nothing else, bring up an interesting fact that may spark discussion (of course, calibrate to your audience -- if your target is a party girl, talking about the latest developments in neuro-cybernetics may not be a good idea).

-Whenever bringing up a new topic, always have some perspective on it or a past example where that new topic has relevance. Simply asking questions without giving of yourself in the discussion puts all of the conversational burden on the other party.

-Transition naturally. Have fun, but don't be too try hard. Once a certain level of rapport is built (especially in comfort), you can switch topics easily, but outside of a club environment transitions should be smoother. You can seem ADD if instead of following the discussion naturally, you bounce between some subjects randomly (THIS NEEDS MORE TESTING).


-Don't stay on any one subject too long. Guys often give up breadth of conversation for depth, which can ultimately bore their target. Switch topics before they get stale so the conversation never gets old. The worst thing you can do is talk about the same thing that you've been talking about for the past hour. That doesn't truly build rapport and eventually they will excuse themselves to go do something else.

Sticking Points

Went to venue last night with O. Things did not go well with M, as the vibe was totally off and the venue didn't lend itself to building much attraction through conversation. My club game is still very weak due to the fact I may not necessarily be able to subcommunicate the right things through body language. And, of course, I don't project my voice well, so when they can't hear me, that hurts alot, too. Found out after a tough night that I have a huge sticking point (self-evident, really): ATTRACTION. I literally cannot flip the attraction switches, or if I can, I can't flip very many of them. Another big one is HOOKING the sets. In l0uder venues, especially, I have a very difficult time hooking multiple sets. 1 will respond, but the others will usually lose interest due to not being able to hear me. I need to learn to project my voice.

On a pleasant note, I think that I can semi-reliably attract 4-5s! Not much progress, but still better than the first time I went out.

Failure is not an option

Ozy was right. G is M from our previous meetup. I should never have remember and checked. Why? Now my inner-state is fucked up. I haven't had anxiety in a week of approaches. Not a speck. And suddenly today, after finding out that G is M and M is attending, I wake up 2 hours after going to bed nervous as a kid giving a speech in class. How fucked up is that? I was talking to my friend Chris, and I explained to him that I hung all of my motivations on the failure to get M, and that in the future, maybe... I'd get another chance. Well, it's starting to look like that chance is going to be tonight, so I need to bring my AAA+ game. Fuck, if only it could have been a few months down the road... or at least a few more weeks. I've made good progress since last 2 weeks, imo, but not enough! Well, my only option now is to warm up today and be in such a fantastically tight state when we meet tonight that I draw her into my frame and keep her there.

There is no other choice and failure is not an option.

Cold Reading!

Wanted to get this down before I forget; something we've been lacking in our approaches (at least I know I've been lacking) is using cold reads. Girls love it when you can tell them something about themselves and cold reads really just do that. I'll edit this post to elaborate more, but I just wanted to put it up as a reminder to myself.

Disappointment

Well, not completely. I ended up staying home yesterday -- got dressed, fixed my hair, was ready to put on cologne and the finishing touches when I realized how absolutely tired I was. So, I decided to skip last night (not without a nagging sense of things of missed) and catch up on my sleep. I ended up going to bed around 9:30 and probably slept for a good 6 hours (I say only 6 because I can never seem to get more than 4 hours of unbroken sleep before waking and staying up for minutes at a time), but was surprisingly tired this morning. Maybe it's lack of napping that does that to me -- I find that if I can get some naps in at work or at home, I'm pretty much good to go for the rest of the night. I've missed naps the last couple of days, so that's affecting my energy levels. I hadn't felt as tired yesterday as I had in a long time (which was a little depressing). Tonight, though, should be fun with J in our group and we can really start rolling as a crew.

Anyway, this blog is about PU, not about my terrible sleeping habits -- some insights I'd gained over the last couple of days:

• Mixed Sets. Mixed sets are SUPER easy. Literally, about a million times easier than an all-girl set, imo. Guys blow right open when you talk to them and don't come across as hitting on the girl in their group. I have almost no fear of mixed sets now.

• Tailoring delivery to your set. You can really tell how receptive a set will be depending on the environment. Me, O and R were at a place in Hollywood the other day, and O tried to open a 2-girl set. They weren't really rude, per se, but they never hooked and you could tell they had attitude. Personally, although I find attitude a turn-off if it's a random girl, I know that breaking into girl sets will sometimes garner you a neutral to cool (sometimes cold) reaction; that's just the nature of the game. I'm ok with that and have to work around it (inner game rocks!). Anyway, something I noticed about this 2 set was that they weren't terrifically bright -- probably average Hollywood trendy types (not even that good looking, imo... a 6 & 7 brunette and blonde), but I realized how absolutely important it is to tailor your material and deliver to your audience. O is great, because he comes off as really smart and witty, with a smooth delivery. But sometimes, you can go over the set's heads if they're not used to that; this is what happened here. O delivered a witty line, and I looked at the girls' reactions and you could almost see the gears turning in their head. It was painfully obvious that they got the witticism either too late or not at all. I think the Don put it best when he says something to the effect of, "sometimes I have to be bright shiny guy who's just really fun and entertaining and sometimes I have to be the deep, intellectual guy who teaches them something. It all depends on the girl that you're targeting".
  
• People are boring. Yes, I said it. It sounds a bit harsh, but it's honest and I need to understand the nuances of social interactions if I'm going to be doing this. Hell, I used to be super boring (now I'm just mildly entertaining), so I know where these guys are coming from. It all comes from delivery, body language and enthusiasm. If you're carrying on the conversation enthusiastically, you can talk about almost anything (for at least a little while) and have your set think you're this really interesting guy. Another by-product about enthusiasm that just hit me is that it relates passion; girls love guys who are passionate (mostly because it implies that they have goals) and anything that you can do that helps convey a passionate personality will be positive. Secondly, this enthusiasm sets you apart from the crowd; 99% of the girls in the world are in contact with nothing but boring guys.
  

--Tangent: One of the reasons why women cheat on men so much, imo, is because so many men don't provide what women subconsciously need. Women want a strong, confident, passionate, goal-oriented, interesting man. A real alpha-male. In fact, even if a woman can't consciously articulate these desires, describe a guy who fits all of the above qualities and you'll have all of your female friends clamoring to meet him.

Biggest lesson I learned these last couple of days is... I NEED SLEEP. A consistent sleep schedule, at least, and preferably 5+ hours a day.

Sleepy

I was going to write up a field report summarizing last night, but getting only 3 hours of sleep yesterday and no nap has made me extremely lazy. Suffice to say, it was both a good and bad night. Good because my wing and I opened at least 4-5 sets each. It was fun. Bad because most of the sets were all guy sets or mixed sets with unattractive girls. Oh well, you take what you can get. I only wish the venue had been more target rich and we'd been more aggressive in talking to predominantly female sets. I don't come out to talk to guys and I know my wing doesn't either. Still, it was a positive experience overall and should give us fuel for tonight. We're also meeting up with someone else who has a good, positive vibe so it should be pretty much on. Assuming I get to take a nap before hand.

The other post mentioning my roommate and how I may have screwed up my frame in the house seems to have been unfounded worry. She was friendly to me yesterday and seemed to show no signs of being affected by what I'd said on Sunday. I know she's looking for a guy to get into a relationship with, so I should start using her as a pivot -- it would provide good social proof for me and help her out, really raising my value with my roommates.

On a side note, I need to pick up more clothes -- I've been pretty much wearing the same 4 shirts every time we go out. Maybe I'll swing by Banana Republic this weekend and pick a blazer since I still have that GC from last year. Too bad I think their clothing sucks.

Motivation to Succeed

I must say, the motivation to succeed is a necessary one for any endeavor. I used to be a huge gaming nerd (think 8+ hours on a computer/console just playing games), but, oddly enough, I was never particularly good at playing games. Sure, I was better than the average guy who had never picked up a controller/keyboard/mouse before, but I wasn't noticeably better than people who played less than me; in some cases, I was worse. Why is that? Motivation to succeed. I'd never truly been motivated to do well in games. I played games and I derived some enjoyment from them and that was that.

It wasn't until maybe I was 21 or so that I seriously got good at a game. Not good enough to compete professionally, but definitely good enough to *eventually* compete professionally. Yeah, I know, not much of accomplishment, but for me, it was a milestone. How did I get better? The motivation to succeed.

This is where it pertains to game. Before you can improve, you have to be motivated to succeed.
It won't matter how much you go out and try if you're only going through the motions and not working towards success. Sinn said something along the lines of, "Whenever you're in an interaction, you have to think, does this bring me closer to my goal or further away?". There are countless guys out there who read this stuff and theorize about it, but just don't have the motivation. They put it off and put it off until eventually, they forget about it -- it becomes nothing more than a footnote in the recesses of their mind. Then you have guys who are motivated to go out, but not motivated to succeed. These are probably the worst, because they do nothing more than go out and fraternize with their fellow PUs and talk about theory -- all without approaching a set (or maybe only approaching 2-3).

I'll be honest, I've fallen into this trap as of recently. My wingman is a fascinating individual and personally I love discussing theory (I also am extremely talkative when speaking about my passions, of which self-improvement is the main), so it often leads to alot more talking than sarging. Well, it's time to cut that bad habit and focus on sarging. Tonight I'm going to propose to my wing that we do whatever we can to improve our individual skillsets, including putting a time limit on how long we can wait before making any approaches, leading the way to build up energy for the others and possibly using a punishment/reward system to get each other motivated to sarge as many sets as possible.

For someone who has often suffered from bouts of depression, lethargy and apathy, it's an incredible feeling to be so interested and excited to do something positive that I honestly believe with all my heart that PU is something that every man should study and practice; not just for the ability to attract women, but for the powerful inner game it provides.

# Close Voicemail

So I was driving to work this morning and thinking about number closes. I can't remember who posted this on the forums, but one guy had a terrific way of number closing. After he got the number, he would call the girl's voicemail and leave a message talking about her. It's a terrific idea because every time the girl hears the message, she'll be brought back into the state she was in when she met that "funny, interesting, cool, sexy guy". It's also a million times more memorable than "Joe01" that she sees on her phone.

The script that I would use for the phone message would be this, "Oh man, I had a great time tonight and met a bunch of really cool and interesting people... except for this one girl. She seemed like a bit of a dork. But you know what, I think there's more to her than meets the eye." It playfully teases her but also paints her as a deep person (every girl wants to be known as "deep" -- thanks to Nubilous for bringing that up). The only other way to make it better is to set a non-flaking frame, but I think the message might get too unwieldy at that point. If your game is tight enough, you shouldn't have too much flaking problems anyway.

Direct Game

I've been giving more thought to Direct Game recently. Mostly because my wingman O seems to naturally gravitate towards this type of approach. I, on the other hand, feel much more comfortable using canned and pre-planned openers that work under the radar. However, due to a few failed attempts at Sunday and weekday sarging (both with Nubilous and with others), I've realized that Sundays and weekdays are perfect opportunities to try Direct.

Personally, my preferred method is Indirect simply because that's what I first started learning and it really seems perfect for someone like me (I like to break things down into very specific steps and have a certain methodology planned out). On the other hand, there's a certain beauty in simply walking up to an attractive girl and saying something along the lines of, "You know, I'd be kicking myself all day if I didn't come over here to find out if there was more to you than meets the eye" (I haven't tried that opener yet, but reading it and thinking it in my head, I imagine very positive results; it's well worded, complimentary and -- it also acts as a mini-screen). Another thing about going direct is that the transition to a normal conversation seems to be much, much smoother... after all, your intentions are clear and you can immediately begin discussing personal topics without it being awkward (well, too awkward).

Another benefit to going Direct is that since you have very little canned material and the interaction is more spontaneous, it helps develop situational awareness/relevance and conversational skills. I've personally found that even when I move in with a canned opener, my responses tend to be very stilted and I pay very little attention to what I'm saying. I understand that canned openers are designed to elicit pre-programmed responses so that I can think about logistics and formulate a game plan, but often-times my mind just blanks while they drone on and on about how they don't think you should ever date your ex-gf's friend.

--Tangent: I have quite a bit of difficulty concentrating on what other people are saying. I've developed the unenviable ability to drown out others while at the same time seemingly appear to be engrossed in the conversation. I need to start breaking that habit.

--Sticking Point: I've just realized that I'm still letting the openers go on for way too long; I need to cut that thread immediately and forward stack/transition to normal conversation asap.

Direct also requires good body language and a strong frame, but in different ways from Indirect. BL for Direct, I think, needs to be more relaxed and expressive when showing interest. Obviously you don't want to show too much interest through bl or give a needy vibe, but the fact that you're making your intentions clear seems to necessitate having a less "aloof" frame.

--Tangent: Sinn talks about hoops in the interview series and mentions that the ones you use in Direct game uses smaller, easier hoops. It doesn't make sense to walk up to a girl and strike up a conversation with her, then suddenly make her jump through a huge hoop. That comes off as situationally irrelevant and more than a bit rude.

Personally, I'm pretty excited to be trying Direct; I hope to be doing a little at the mall later today for fun.

Going out and doing this stuff is so exhilarating; much like Mystery said, "You'll feel nervous, but it'll be a good nervous -- like jumping out of an airplane".

Musings

Lots to catch up on today. I had a million things I'd wanted to write about last night, but now, I can only think of a few of them (that's what 2 hours of sleep will do to you).

1. Never let female friends that are looking for long-term relationships know that you're a PUA. This should be self-evident, but I made this huge mistake yesterday. I was feeling particularly depressed yesterday morning from the missed opportunity with HB9 japanese girl (the one I mentioned in my previous post) and really needed an outlet for my frustration. I erred by talking to my female roommate about it (whom I consider a "friend", but is probably more of an acquaintance). Anyway, the discussion put a negative frame around me (that of a "player") and eventually led to me making the comment that "whenever a guy helps a girl, there's always something he's looking for". It was directed toward the fact that a male friend of the female roommate was heading over to wax her car. Now, my roommate isn't that hot (a 6 on a normal day and a 7.5 on a good day), but guys aren't picky. So, after I made the comment, I realized that: A) it made it look like I was insulting all guys by insinuating that they all have ulterior motives (that of sex) and B) that I was pointing her friend out in particular wanted to get sex. Both very, very bad conclusions to come to.

--Tangent: Yes, it's true, all guys have ulterior motives when helping girls, but not all motives are the same. Some guys may do it because they're hoping to get some, others may do it because they're honestly interested in the girl and want to have a relationship with her. Most (nice) guys fit into the latter category, which is very good for girls.

So, yeah, I made a big mistake which may come back to bite me in the ass. She may negatively frame me to my landlady (likely) and be wary of any girls I bring back to the house (and especially into my room). I think that she also may be much more wary about interacting with me or being friendly towards me. She'd already had some shields up due to the first impression I gave her (I tried C&F, but probably came off alot more C than F), so that's not a good thing. I was hoping to befriend her and use her as a pivot and DHV in addition to being able to talk to her about relationship advice. Things may have been damaged irreparably, but we'll see. I'll lay low for a while and try to be nice/interesting/funny.

2. I want to get O's opinion on this, but... When latin-amog interrupted the conversation and stole my frame last Saturday while I was talking to HB9, I should've immediately used girl code on her, led her by the hand and isolated her. This would've shown alpha status and DHV'd. I'd come to this solution on the drive to work this morning while pondering the situation; yes, you can't relive the past, but you can always learn from it.

--Tangent: If I weren't in the PU scene, I would never have understood the subtleties of these social situations and never have realized what the correct options are. PU has taught me an incredible amount of learning what is socially acceptable, what is alpha behavior, and what girls respond to. For that, I'll always be grateful to the pioneers of this community.

As I was saying, this was something that I didn't do because I still have difficulty with frame loss -- I've been brought up beta for the last 26 years and it's just recently that I'm starting to express a more confident and capable persona. It's still a learning process, but leagues ahead of where I was a few months ago. My god, I hope that another opportunity with HB9 comes up so that I can get her. She's super cute and has this terrifically innocent look about her that seems so inherent to japanese girls. We'll see, but I'm using this as motivation to build up my skill set.

3. Sticking Points. I have plenty of sticking points, which include:

• Losing frame. I lose my frame when my set gets interrupted. I need to be able to adjust quickly and effectively to maintain control of the situation. Need practice stealing the conversation after an interrupt occurs.
  
• Transitions. I need to be able to transition from the opener to a normal conversation. I have great difficulty with this and often-time will eject from the set before I attempt a transition. Which leads to my next point...
• Plowing. I'm not plowing enough; I give up during certain points in the interaction. PLOW, PLOW, PLOW. At the worst, a girl will walk away or ignore you, at best, you'll break through and generate that interest. In any case, you'll learn alot more by simply plowing and trying to figure out what you did wrong rather than ejecting too early and never seeing your mistakes.
• Preparation. I'm not preparing enough -- my reportoire(sp?) of openers is extremely limited. I only have jealous girlfriend and man-to-man opinion. Both of which I think are good openers, but I need more backup stuff.
• IOIs and Body/Conversational Language. When I was with Nubilous last night, he brought up that HB5 was giving me some heavy IOIs. I saw them when they first came up, but promptly forgot as the interaction continued. I need to remember to tally IOIs so that I know when I've built enough attraction and can transition into comfort. I wasn't interested in HB5 at all, so I wasn't actively trying to game her, merely build up conversational skills, but I should've been aware, nonetheless of the signals she was throwing me. Most of it was conversational IOIs (at least that's the way it seemed) -- something I'm not terribly familiar with.
• Playful conversations. My conversations tend to be dry and less playful/teasing than they should be. It seems as though I'm more of a passionate, explain things and talk for a while, whereas I should probably interject varying amounts of teasing to keep the set's interest high. Ozy is very good at this type of conversation -- I'll need to pick up pointers from him and observe what he does in situations.
• Eye contact/suggestions. This one I'm not sure about yet. Nubilous has terrific eye contact and eye expressions (he has a very mischievous look) that seems to really bring across that fun, playful, flirty persona. However, I don't know how this would work for me, since I'm worried that it may generate too much of a "player" vibe. My intent is to come in under the radar and perhaps once I get the target into comfort, I can begin the more overt IOIs. This way, she doesn't see it until after she's begun qualifying herself to me. She works harder and thus will invest more into the interaction. At least that's my theory. I'll talk to Ozy about this.
• Hoops. I still tend to jump through hoops (especially conversational ones), without realizing it. I came to this conclusion after my interaction with HB5 and realized that everytime she disagreed with me, I would reframe my responses to match hers. I need to remember to keep my frame and simply shrug off anything that disagrees with what I say. Give subtle IODs (turn away, look bored, etc.) to force them to change their frame to match mine.
  

I have plenty more sticking points, but those are the worst ones right now. On a good note, I'm feeling alot less resistance to approaching random sets -- I no longer have the "frozen" feeling, although I'm still a bit worried about what I'll say and how I say it. No matter, this too will be overcome with time.

That's it for now -- I'll add more later today as things come back to me.

Meeting your dream girl

I forgot who asked it, but the question was posed, "If you met your dream girl right now, what would you say to her?" This is a question that I'd realized was an incredibly important one to answer, because how many of us are truly interesting enough to captivate the attention of another person? Every day, I see my friends, co-workers and acquaintances, and few, if any of them, can hold a decent conversation, let alone be a truly fascinating individual.

Where am I going with all of this? Because I met a terrific girl last night (although not necessarily my dream girl), and I wasn't able to keep her interest. Sure, I had to compete with other guys who were throwing sloppy game at her (only 1 person that I noticed was able to effectively convey alpha-male status and not be so rough with going direct), but that should have only made it easier. Instead, my frame was stolen and eventually dissolved due to me being unable to control the interaction. "Lead the men and the women will follow", as the saying goes. I tried re-establishing frame through simple AMOG tactics (arm around the shoulder, addressing the guys and trying to win the conversation), but in the end, it was just too difficult. My game isn't tight enough and my social intuition failed me.

Last night's learning lesson was a difficult pill to swallow, but a necessary one. On the one hand, it is incredibly depressing to know that you have a myriad of tools that 99% of all guys will never know, and if you were just a little bit better you would have gone home to fuck the prom queen, as Sean Connery said in The Rock. On the other, it has motivated me like nothing else. Never before have I been so intent on learning and mastering the techniques that I stumbled upon 2 years ago, and truly being able to get the girl.

What's my gameplan now? I've come to the point where social interaction has become a compulsion for me -- probably one of the few times being obsessed about something can have positive life changing results. I'm going to try to sarge more on the weekdays, and begin solo sarging when no one else can make it.

The time to live is now, and more than anything, I want to live a life of no regrets.