Sunday, April 22, 2007

Meeting your dream girl

I forgot who asked it, but the question was posed, "If you met your dream girl right now, what would you say to her?" This is a question that I'd realized was an incredibly important one to answer, because how many of us are truly interesting enough to captivate the attention of another person? Every day, I see my friends, co-workers and acquaintances, and few, if any of them, can hold a decent conversation, let alone be a truly fascinating individual.

Where am I going with all of this? Because I met a terrific girl last night (although not necessarily my dream girl), and I wasn't able to keep her interest. Sure, I had to compete with other guys who were throwing sloppy game at her (only 1 person that I noticed was able to effectively convey alpha-male status and not be so rough with going direct), but that should have only made it easier. Instead, my frame was stolen and eventually dissolved due to me being unable to control the interaction. "Lead the men and the women will follow", as the saying goes. I tried re-establishing frame through simple AMOG tactics (arm around the shoulder, addressing the guys and trying to win the conversation), but in the end, it was just too difficult. My game isn't tight enough and my social intuition failed me.

Last night's learning lesson was a difficult pill to swallow, but a necessary one. On the one hand, it is incredibly depressing to know that you have a myriad of tools that 99% of all guys will never know, and if you were just a little bit better you would have gone home to fuck the prom queen, as Sean Connery said in The Rock. On the other, it has motivated me like nothing else. Never before have I been so intent on learning and mastering the techniques that I stumbled upon 2 years ago, and truly being able to get the girl.

What's my gameplan now? I've come to the point where social interaction has become a compulsion for me -- probably one of the few times being obsessed about something can have positive life changing results. I'm going to try to sarge more on the weekdays, and begin solo sarging when no one else can make it.

The time to live is now, and more than anything, I want to live a life of no regrets.

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