Direct Game

I've been giving more thought to Direct Game recently. Mostly because my wingman O seems to naturally gravitate towards this type of approach. I, on the other hand, feel much more comfortable using canned and pre-planned openers that work under the radar. However, due to a few failed attempts at Sunday and weekday sarging (both with Nubilous and with others), I've realized that Sundays and weekdays are perfect opportunities to try Direct.

Personally, my preferred method is Indirect simply because that's what I first started learning and it really seems perfect for someone like me (I like to break things down into very specific steps and have a certain methodology planned out). On the other hand, there's a certain beauty in simply walking up to an attractive girl and saying something along the lines of, "You know, I'd be kicking myself all day if I didn't come over here to find out if there was more to you than meets the eye" (I haven't tried that opener yet, but reading it and thinking it in my head, I imagine very positive results; it's well worded, complimentary and -- it also acts as a mini-screen). Another thing about going direct is that the transition to a normal conversation seems to be much, much smoother... after all, your intentions are clear and you can immediately begin discussing personal topics without it being awkward (well, too awkward).

Another benefit to going Direct is that since you have very little canned material and the interaction is more spontaneous, it helps develop situational awareness/relevance and conversational skills. I've personally found that even when I move in with a canned opener, my responses tend to be very stilted and I pay very little attention to what I'm saying. I understand that canned openers are designed to elicit pre-programmed responses so that I can think about logistics and formulate a game plan, but often-times my mind just blanks while they drone on and on about how they don't think you should ever date your ex-gf's friend.

--Tangent: I have quite a bit of difficulty concentrating on what other people are saying. I've developed the unenviable ability to drown out others while at the same time seemingly appear to be engrossed in the conversation. I need to start breaking that habit.

--Sticking Point: I've just realized that I'm still letting the openers go on for way too long; I need to cut that thread immediately and forward stack/transition to normal conversation asap.

Direct also requires good body language and a strong frame, but in different ways from Indirect. BL for Direct, I think, needs to be more relaxed and expressive when showing interest. Obviously you don't want to show too much interest through bl or give a needy vibe, but the fact that you're making your intentions clear seems to necessitate having a less "aloof" frame.

--Tangent: Sinn talks about hoops in the interview series and mentions that the ones you use in Direct game uses smaller, easier hoops. It doesn't make sense to walk up to a girl and strike up a conversation with her, then suddenly make her jump through a huge hoop. That comes off as situationally irrelevant and more than a bit rude.

Personally, I'm pretty excited to be trying Direct; I hope to be doing a little at the mall later today for fun.

Going out and doing this stuff is so exhilarating; much like Mystery said, "You'll feel nervous, but it'll be a good nervous -- like jumping out of an airplane".