Disappointment

Well, not completely. I ended up staying home yesterday -- got dressed, fixed my hair, was ready to put on cologne and the finishing touches when I realized how absolutely tired I was. So, I decided to skip last night (not without a nagging sense of things of missed) and catch up on my sleep. I ended up going to bed around 9:30 and probably slept for a good 6 hours (I say only 6 because I can never seem to get more than 4 hours of unbroken sleep before waking and staying up for minutes at a time), but was surprisingly tired this morning. Maybe it's lack of napping that does that to me -- I find that if I can get some naps in at work or at home, I'm pretty much good to go for the rest of the night. I've missed naps the last couple of days, so that's affecting my energy levels. I hadn't felt as tired yesterday as I had in a long time (which was a little depressing). Tonight, though, should be fun with J in our group and we can really start rolling as a crew.

Anyway, this blog is about PU, not about my terrible sleeping habits -- some insights I'd gained over the last couple of days:

• Mixed Sets. Mixed sets are SUPER easy. Literally, about a million times easier than an all-girl set, imo. Guys blow right open when you talk to them and don't come across as hitting on the girl in their group. I have almost no fear of mixed sets now.

• Tailoring delivery to your set. You can really tell how receptive a set will be depending on the environment. Me, O and R were at a place in Hollywood the other day, and O tried to open a 2-girl set. They weren't really rude, per se, but they never hooked and you could tell they had attitude. Personally, although I find attitude a turn-off if it's a random girl, I know that breaking into girl sets will sometimes garner you a neutral to cool (sometimes cold) reaction; that's just the nature of the game. I'm ok with that and have to work around it (inner game rocks!). Anyway, something I noticed about this 2 set was that they weren't terrifically bright -- probably average Hollywood trendy types (not even that good looking, imo... a 6 & 7 brunette and blonde), but I realized how absolutely important it is to tailor your material and deliver to your audience. O is great, because he comes off as really smart and witty, with a smooth delivery. But sometimes, you can go over the set's heads if they're not used to that; this is what happened here. O delivered a witty line, and I looked at the girls' reactions and you could almost see the gears turning in their head. It was painfully obvious that they got the witticism either too late or not at all. I think the Don put it best when he says something to the effect of, "sometimes I have to be bright shiny guy who's just really fun and entertaining and sometimes I have to be the deep, intellectual guy who teaches them something. It all depends on the girl that you're targeting".
  
• People are boring. Yes, I said it. It sounds a bit harsh, but it's honest and I need to understand the nuances of social interactions if I'm going to be doing this. Hell, I used to be super boring (now I'm just mildly entertaining), so I know where these guys are coming from. It all comes from delivery, body language and enthusiasm. If you're carrying on the conversation enthusiastically, you can talk about almost anything (for at least a little while) and have your set think you're this really interesting guy. Another by-product about enthusiasm that just hit me is that it relates passion; girls love guys who are passionate (mostly because it implies that they have goals) and anything that you can do that helps convey a passionate personality will be positive. Secondly, this enthusiasm sets you apart from the crowd; 99% of the girls in the world are in contact with nothing but boring guys.
  

--Tangent: One of the reasons why women cheat on men so much, imo, is because so many men don't provide what women subconsciously need. Women want a strong, confident, passionate, goal-oriented, interesting man. A real alpha-male. In fact, even if a woman can't consciously articulate these desires, describe a guy who fits all of the above qualities and you'll have all of your female friends clamoring to meet him.

Biggest lesson I learned these last couple of days is... I NEED SLEEP. A consistent sleep schedule, at least, and preferably 5+ hours a day.